For most of her life, Kelly-Anne has heard the same thing over and over: “But you don’t look disabled.” What most people don’t see is her strength and the courage it takes to face a world not built for invisible disabilities.
Kelly-Anne lives with an invisible disability. She has difficulty reading, writing, navigating directions, and math, which feels nearly impossible for her. Throughout her life, she’s also dealt with mental health challenges. But because there are no physical markers of her disability, people assume that she’s simply not trying hard enough. “People get impatient when you can’t count change correctly at checkout. They don’t realize that taking the bus is terrifying when you can’t always read the numbers or understand the signs.”
Over the years, Kelly-Anne has watched resources go to others and experienced being left out of programs, always pushed to the back of the line to “give way for those who need it more.” She has had to constantly explain herself, yet never wanted to be a burden to others.
“I learned to make myself smaller, to put my own needs last, and pretend I was fine.”
Throughout her school years, she found herself caught in the middle— too capable for the general support system for people with disabilities or not disabled enough for another. She was pushed to the margins, dismissed, and judged by those who could not see what she was struggling with. Because of this, Kelly-Anne became profoundly self-aware, learning to read rooms and anticipate rejection. She braced herself for the moment when people would realize she wasn’t what they expected.
When Kelly-Anne came to ABLE2, she was hesitant. She was afraid to believe that the program would truly consider her as someone who deserved support. But she came anyway, because deep down, she knew she needed to try something different. She knew she wanted to find a genuine connection with someone outside of her family. What she found was beyond what she dreamed of.
“ABLE2 saw me,” Kelly-Anne says. “For the first time in my life, I heard the words: ‘Your disability is real. Your needs matter just as anyone else’s.”
Through ABLE2’s Matching Program, she met Maria— not just any volunteer, but someone carefully matched to her through a rigorous, intentional process. Maria didn’t just put in hours or go through the motions. She genuinely wanted to get to know Kelly-Anne and build a friendship.
On one of their first outings, Maria made sure she got home safely because she knew Kelly-Anne struggled with bus numbers and directions. She asked her to text when she arrived, not out of pity or obligation, but because she genuinely cared.
“No one had ever done that for me before,” Kelly-Anne reflects.
Today, Maria and Kelly-Anne’s friendship has evolved into something neither expected. “Maria is my best friend,” says Kelly-Anne. They explore the city just as friends do— visiting museums, taking pottery classes, and watching movies. They share a love for cats and even wore matching cat-embroidered shirts to their interview. They share lots of laughs, learn about each other’s worlds, and see perspectives they never would have discovered on their own.
Maria has become an advocate in her own circle, helping her friends and family understand what it really means to live with an invisible disability. She’s learned so much from Kelly-Anne that she now educates others about disabilities people didn’t know existed.
For Kelly-Anne, the impact runs deeper. “For the first time in 49 years, I don’t feel invisible anymore.”
When asked about the highlight of their friendship, both Maria and Kelly-Anne share the same memory: Christmas at Kelly-Anne’s home.
Maria recalls it like stepping into a dream: “It felt like going to the North Pole. The house was decorated from floor to ceiling, and Kelly-Anne and her family welcomed my partner and me with open arms. We were showered with gifts and shared a beautiful meal. I don’t have family here, so spending Christmas with them gave me the warmth and love that made us feel like we were part of their family.”
For Kelly-Anne, the significance was different but equally profound: “It was the first time I brought a friend— my friend, not my brother’s friend or my mom’s friend. And it felt great for my family to get to know this amazing person who was my friend.”
For the first time in a long time, Kelly-Anne had someone who genuinely wanted to spend time with her, not because of her disability, but because of who she was. For the first time, she felt like she truly mattered.
In the beginning, Kelly-Anne had doubts about the match. She reflects, “If someone doesn’t call you, if they don’t do that little extra bit… that’s when you have all the doubts in your head. You start wondering, did I do something wrong? Am I not good enough?”
But Maria kept showing up. She kept choosing their friendship, even when life got complicated. Even when Kelly-Anne had bad days. Even when circumstances shifted—because real friends don’t disappear just because life changes.
Maria echoes this sentiment: “I really admire Kelly-Anne. She has her head up through anything, and she is the kindest, sweetest person I have ever known. Like, she makes sure that when we try out a new restaurant, there are vegan options for me. She shows up for me in ways that matter. To me, that’s what real friendship is.”
When asked what they’d say to potential volunteers, Kelly-Anne’s answer is simple: “Give it a shot. You learn a lot from each other, a lot of stuff that you wouldn’t normally learn on your own. It’s really a unique learning experience, and you meet some really fantastic people.”
Maria adds, “I came to volunteer, but I gained so much more. The matching process was rigorous, yes, but it was absolutely worth it. This has been such an eye-opening, deeply rewarding experience.” She discovered that the greatest gift wasn’t what she could give—it was what she gained from truly knowing Kelly-Anne.
ABLE2 stands on the belief that every person deserves to be seen as able, important, and valued. Through the Matching Program, Kelly-Anne finally received this truth, and it reshaped her world: You matter. Your disability is real. You are worth the effort.
But Kelly-Anne’s story doesn’t happen by chance. It happens because generous donors like you invest in ABLE2’s programs and services like the Matching Program. You invest in the rigorous matching process, the ongoing support from trained staff, and the infrastructure of genuine human connection.
And right now, there are still over 100 people with disabilities waiting for their match. Waiting to hear that their disability matters. Waiting for someone to see them. Waiting to feel like they belong.
When you donate to ABLE2, you help rewrite more stories like Kelly-Anne’s. You ensure that people with invisible disabilities finally hear: You matter. You are seen. You are worth the effort.
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