Worth the Wait: Finding Connection, Laughter, and Belonging

Written by Stephen S.

I am a retiree with 33 years in the Public Service who lives alone in my own condo. I am an only child, and my relatives fall into two categories: dead and deadbeats. Personally, I find the former more relatable. I had been on the ABLE2’s Matching Program’s waiting list for over ten years. I got so discouraged that I told the coordinator to take me off the list. Fortunately, he convinced me to stay on. 

It was well worth the wait. About three years ago, I was matched with someone approximately my age. He is about to retire, so we are in the same phase of life, the one just before the twilight years. I can rely on him in case of an emergency or if I just want to get out. We both have a wicked sense of humour, heavy on sarcasm, light on political correctness. Our favourite activity is eating and drinking. We have travelled to many small towns around Ottawa for a change of scenery. But our most frequently attended fine establishment is Tim Hortons. Together, we only need 2,368,450 more reward points before we win our own franchise! 

I have also used ABLE2’s Reach Legal Referral Services, which gives access for disabled persons to lawyers willing to work pro bono. My case was against the Ontario government. I learned from the process that common sense may ensure a moral victory, but not necessarily a legal one. 

Seriously, ABLE2’s Matching Program has enabled me to escape my social isolation and to share my hopes and frustrations interspersed with a healthy dose of laughter. I can think of no more worthy endeavour to support.